Sitting in your beloved couch one night, holding a cup of coffee and maybe a favorite book, a thought suddenly struck you.
You are nailing all your studies. You have a great job lined up. You are in a good relationship. You have been to many places and have done many things.
But why does it seem that something is still missing?
Maybe there’s nothing wrong with you. But a nagging feeling of emptiness means that you are not exactly perfect either.
We have heard of people who, in the middle of their lives and careers, decided to suddenly shift their gears and try something new, something that they had always dreamed of.
And in the end, you won’t hear a single statement of regret from them for what they did. Actually, they just decided to control their lives—the way they intend to.
Going where the crowd goes
Directly or indirectly, your surrounding plays a great role on what’s happening to your life. You went to this college because your parents want you to study at that school. You went to these places because it’s a popular tourist destination.
You’ve done this or that because your friends did them too. While there’s nothing wrong with that, it seems that you are just going with the flow. You actually sometimes spend your life by doing what the rest do, not because you can’t do it yourself but because it’s easier that way.
And now, it’s time for you to do it your way.
Visualizing your life as you want it
First of all, recognize your priorities at the moment. Is it making your own family? Is it starting a business? Is it being a freelance photographer like you have always wanted?
And then, set your own goals for each priority. You can also set your own “deadlines” on when you should have done this goal or that.
Tackle your goals one at a time and try to achieve them all. To do that, you have to open your own doors—you can’t just get help, be the one who will chase the opportunity.
Get some help from the people around you.
Your friends and family will be there to support you. You can also start connections with people whom you deem as helpful in establishing your goals.
But just remember that in the end, it will be you who’ll benefit or suffer from your decisions—so make sure that your every move will fit your life as you want it.